Interview with Kinga

Why it's my mission to support your healing journey.

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♥ How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a well-being, self-love and happiness expert?

♥ So how about becoming a psychologist and turning to coaching?

♥ How did spirituality get in the mix, for you personally? And what role does it play in your coaching programs?

♥ Who are your clients?

♥ What makes you different from other life coaches?

♥ For what type of clients are your programs NOT going to work?

♥ What would you recommend for people who aren't sure about working with you yet and would like to sample your work at low cost to see if it’s the right solutions for them?

♥ Kinga, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. Where do I go from here?

How long have you been doing what you do,

and how did you become a well-being, self-love and happiness expert?

To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you to better health, optimal wellness, vitality and joy.

That defining moment in my life happened in 2011. All my life I had been struggling with chronic pain and that one defining moment, a day before I was going to fly to the USA to get married to the love of my life, a miracle happened. It was at a Time Line Therapy (TM) course where I was practicing this technique with my fellow students. It was then that I discovered that the root cause of my chronic back pain was psychosomatic. And that I needed to heal through the power of insight and acknowledgment of my emotions, rather than keep suppressing and ignoring the symptoms. I had spent years going to physiotherapists and being treated by chiropractors, which had never solved my problems and had offered only temporary relief. That day, when I chose to work on my back problems during this course, the pain magically, instantly and effortlessly dissolved and has been gone ever since.

It was because of that experience with Time Line Therapy (TM), I learned that:
A) We can influence our bodies, illnesses, pains and complaints, at times even to the point where pain is resolved.
B) Our body is a valuable ally that wants to communicate with us and can give us important information if we allow ourselves to listen to it and take it seriously.
C) Bodily symptoms are often caused by negative feelings we keep repressed (unconsciously).

D) It's important to look at the underlying psychosomatic factors that contribute to and often even cause physical symptoms. You cannot fix physically what is psychological in nature. And even if you can, if you don't address the underlying issues, the symptoms will come back or a new, more severe, symptom will ask your attention. I learned to listen to the whispers of my body before it starts to yell at me.

It was after this experience that I decided to help other people with overcoming and dealing with chronic pain. And it was because of this experience that I started my quest to learn more about the self-healing mechanisms of the human body and the feedback that life is giving us.

So how about becoming a psychologist and turning to coaching?

Becoming a psychologist was a dream I held from the age of about 3. I didn't know what a psychologist was at that time, but I've always had the desire to help people and I've always been a great listener with a logical, analytical mind.

My life has been all about overcoming difficulties and making the best of everything. It's a story of my personal transformation from being a shy, introverted child, suffering from debilitating anxieties and chronic illnesses into a vibrant, healthy, outgoing woman. My story is about discovering the inner (healing) power that lies in each and every one of us, that we can all learn to use. I was able to free myself from the chains of my past by taking responsibility for my well-being and happiness. And I KNOW this is possible for others as well.

My story is about getting from being overly adaptive and a notorious people pleaser to self-love. From feeling depressed, using avoidance and dependency as a coping mechanism and being too serious and too cautious for my own good to tapping into my own joy and being the optimistic, strong go-getter and inspired entrepreneur I am today.

My transformations are numerous and considered impossible by traditional doctors and psychologists. Yet here I am: working as a psychologist and coach myself, thriving inspite of struggles, feeling absolutely great an helping people to achieve their optimal wellness. It's a story of hope, empowerment and freedom!

Obviously, I cannot stress enough, that my experiences, their impact on me and my life and what I did to cope with them are something completely personal and cannot be objectively qualified. I don't believe we can ever TRULY understand what other people are going through, even if we've had similar experiences. That's why I think it's absolutely crucial form my clients to learn how to use their own inner guidance system. Nobody knows better what's good for you and what works for you, but you.

I'm an incurable optimist. I absolutely believe that my clients have everything they need to get their wellness breakthrough. I'm there to guide them, provide them with a healing space, and to cheer them on. That's why working as a psychologist no longer suited me. I've learned so much about human potential through the years, that I don't believe in symptom management and "treating" or healing people. They are perfectly capable of doing that themselves. And yes, we all need support and coaching from time to time to overcome our inner-obstacles. Even the best coaches acknowledge their own limitations when it comes to healing and the importance of mentorships.

So after working as a psychologist for several years, training myself in different areas (NLP, Hypnosis, EFT, EMDR, etc) and through my own personal development, I found out, that coaching and giving people practical guidelines suits me better than working as a conventional psychologist. I love to motivate people and show the possibilities and opportunities that life is full of, especially when they feel stuck. I also have a strong belief that people aren't really broken. They just need love, attention, and careful guidance to be able to thrive. And I'm no softy either. I like to confront people, give them a loving kick in the ass, hold them accountable for their (in)actions and be their personal cheerleader. I have faith in my clients, their talents, and possibilities. I'm fully committed to their success. I have only one condition for working with me: my clients have to be willing and able to really commit to their own well-being. It's hard work after all and it's not in my power to do it for them. With my programs it's like this: they work if YOU do.

I now call myself a holistic wellness coach or a transformational coach and healer. I believe that human beings don't need to be "fixed". They can heal, which means reconnect to their essence by stripping themselves from expectations/rules/habits that don't serve them anymore and are not aligned with their inner truth and be "whole" again. It's accomplished through careful examination of every part of their life and by nourishing their physical body, emotions, mind AND soul.

How did spirituality get in the mix, for you personally?

And what role does it play in your coaching programs?

Obviously not everyone is familiar with the concept of us being a soul in a human body. And not everybody is keen on this concept. And you know what? I wasn't either!

I've spent the majority of my life closing myself off from everything that had anything to do with ghosts, haha! I knew they existed because I had encountered them on several occasions when I was little. Those were horrifying experiences for me. So my mom taught me to say to myself (with strong intention) that I didn't want to have anything to do with them. And for the most part that worked.

But it wasn't enough. You see, I'm highly sensitive (HSP) and it felt like I needed to shield myself from other people's emotions and energies ALL the time. And even though I didn't suffer from anxiety as much as I did when I was little, fear and avoidance still played a big role in my life. I even came to the point where I had managed to successfully close myself off from not only the influence of other people but my own feelings as well!

That was a turning point for me. You see, before that I had always been able to follow my inner guidance system. But since I disconnected myself from feeling basically anything, I couldn't feel my intuition speak to me. And that felt horrible! I was lost, completely and utterly lost.

I decided right then and there that things needed to change and that I needed to learn to feel my emotions instead of denying and suppressing them. I needed to trust the flow of life, trust the Universe, and trust my inner knowing.

At this point in time I had just experienced a pregnancy loss which left my husband and me nearly broken. It brought me to me knees. I even doubted whether I'd be able to cope. The pain was excruciating, I couldn't make sense of this ordeal life put us through and I was mostly bitter and angry.

Long story short: this experience finally led me to my spiritual awakening. I took courses to learn to tap into my intuition again and that made it possible for me to step into my spiritual gifts. Again, my business grew along side my personal journey. I started doing psychic readings and finally was able to embody my truth, which I had know all along: that for us to feel whole we need to embrace the totality of life (mind, body and spirit).

Through one of my courses (Soul Realignment®) I've found out that I'm "a change agent". My motto basically is "just do it". Since I've learned the truth about my Soul Blueprint and who I am at soul level I've finally come to terms with who I am. Before that I was frustrated with myself, judged myself for always drastically rearranging my life and making big, bold, life-changing decisions. Since I know this is who I am, I feel much more at ease!

For me, the most important basic assumptions I have about life are:

♥ Life is a choice and a gift.

♥ Everything happens for a reason.

So for me, spirituality is a way of looking a the world and life. It enriches my life and has given me a whole new toolbox for helping my clients. It doesn't necessarily make things easier, but life makes much more sense to me now. And besides, when we feel something in our core, we know it's true. So with my clients I tend to take them on a path of discovering their own truth. They don't have to believe what I believe or mimic my way of being. It's all about following our own inner guidance, however we want to call it or wherever we think it stems from.

Who are your clients?

I work with people that are basically a lot like me: eager to learn, on a mission to help themselves (and others). Most people I work with are feeling stuck, stressed out, depressed, angry or anxious. And boy do I know those feelings!! People who suffer from chronic pain, low energy, burn-out, work-related issues, the worriers, the doubters, the highly sensitive, the lonely, the overwhelmed and frustrated... Basically everybody from the age of 18 - 90 that is able and willing to invest in him- or herself and wants to commit to their health and happiness.

People often wonder if they have to be "crazy" to work with a psychologist or a coach. I can assure them that my clients are just "normal", ordinary people like you and me that had their times of troubles and just need some help to get them back on the right track.

Through my programs and sessions I strive to make my clients independent from me and others. I want them to take their lives into their own hands, have the courage to make wholehearted decisions and be the beautiful, strong beings I already know them to be.

What makes you different from other life coaches?

Well, first of all, I am a trained and experienced psychologist, so I am able to spot and help resolve any underlying (mild, mental) problems.

Second, of all, I have my own experience with problems and struggles which allows me to understand what my clients are going through a little bit better and hopefully inspire them with my personal stories and victories.

Thirdly, I am extremely driven. One of the most important things to me is learning and growing. I followed a lot of courses and workshops and I continuously keep adding to my knowledge and experience. I feel I can better serve my clients by updating and expanding my toolbox.

The fourth difference is my holistic approach. I focus on my clients as a whole (emotions, body, mind, soul). This makes it possible for my clients to work on all areas of their lives and achieve real balance, satisfaction, and meaningfulness.

I see myself as the most valuable instrument in my life and my coaching sessions. I want to "keep things real" and teach my clients to also act from their inner truth and authentic selves. It's so liberating! You get to keep your integrity, energy, and balance.

I draw from my own experience and have used all the techniques I offer myself. Some people think a psychologist or coach shouldn't share personal stories and inside information. That's ok. I don't force anyone to work with me or watch my videos. The people who do like my approach, though, read about my life's adventures and enroll in my programs, appreciate me for being honest. They find it reassuring, that I'm a human-being of flesh and blood, just as they are. I'm not just some highly educated so-called specialist who learned "all about life" at school. I'm a true expert. I've been where you are, I got through it. And I can show you how you can have YOUR Wellness Breakthrough. You may not always like what I have to tell you – but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth. The truth about what’s standing in the way of your success and how to get rid of it FAST so you can start getting results in record time (and I throw in a healthy dose of humor and inspiration, which always helps!).

I also have a strong and clear vision of life, happiness, and our responsibility to consciously move forward, continuously evolving as human beings and lighting the path for others to follow. Ultimately it's all about, love, light, connecting with each other, and making the world a better place.

For what type of clients are your programs NOT going to work?

Please know I’m very selective in who I work with and I cherry-pick my clients, choosing to (gently) turn away people who aren’t suited for my programs and won’t get the results for which they would have signed up for. (It wouldn’t be fair to them.) Also, my clients need to be really motivated and clear about the results they want. I can also help with that.

The Breakthrough programs are NOT for those who have no money coming in and are absolutely, financially desperate, at least not right away. I know, that when you really, really, really want something, you'll be able to find a way to get it. The only thing that can stand in the way of us working together is anxiety. And that's perfectly normal. I can help you work through that. It would be such a shame for you to deny yourself wellness, happiness, and freedom because of limiting beliefs, right?

As I offer my services mostly online and the most important thing is to ensure a warm, safe environment for everybody during the Program, it's of great importance that you realize, that I'm not able to provide any interventions or services for people in life-threatening situations. When you enter my Program you must be able to take full responsibility of your actions. If you're in some kind of crisis, especially emotionally or mentally, please immediately contact your family doctor, the hospital or the emergency number in your area.

This program is also NOT for you if you:

♥ Don't believe that positive changes are possible for you and that you have the power to make those changes.

♥ Are expecting an "easy ride" or a "magic pill". There's no such thing. If you want something, you'll have to work for it, give something in return. You get nothing for nothing. The magic is life itself. The magic is IN YOU. The program will help you see that and work with it.

♥ Aren't ready or able to commit to yourself or your success, make time to attend the group sessions or listen to the recordings of the Q&A calls or actively work through the videos and exercises.

♥ Are not coachable.

If you are one of these people, I gently and respectfully ask that you not call and I hope you understand why. We’ll probably just not work well together and I wouldn’t want you to waste your time or money.

What would you recommend for people who aren't sure about working with you yet and would like to sample your work at low cost to see if it’s the right solutions for them?

Great question!

I really think that

a) the basic necessities in self-help should be available for everyone and

b) having a good feeling about the person you think of working with is a must.

We all have different needs and learning styles, so finding the coach that's right for you is the most important step. Working together requires commitment and trust. I could be giving you brilliant advice, but if you don't trust me, you'll probably get very little out of the program.

Of course, the way I'm serving others on a personal and transformational level is much more in-depth and tailored to my client's needs, but to give you an example on what you can expect from working with me, here's what you can do:

♥ Sign up for the free Morning Ritual Course. In this course, you'll discover your personal morning wellness routine recipe and learn the sure way to changing your habits, experiencing more control and balance, and making your dreams come true consistently!

♥ Enroll in the online course on Self-Love. This one is in Dutch.

♥ Sign up for the newsletter. You'll get regular inspiration and information and also a free training video delivered to your mailbox!

♥ Schedule a discovery call. It's free and without any obligation. It gives us a chance to talk 1-on-1.

♥ Check out my most updated Social Media accounts for free videos and nuggets of knowledge: Facebook, Instagram, YouTube.

Kinga, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. Where do I go from here?

Woohoo! I'm so excited for you! It sounds like you’re ready to rocket-launch yourself into your future! The best thing to do next is to schedule a discovery session with me. I'll be happy to walk you through the different options to see which one will be the very best for you. I can’t wait to see you succeed and am honored to be the one to help you.

Let’s get your happy on!

To Your Wellness, Happiness & Freedom

Love,

Kinga.

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